I'm working from a cute little cafe in Coronado today, and from my vantage point I've been casually noticing two tables near me. By casually, I mean that I am intrigued, but trying not to let them notice my interest in order to preserve their 'privacy'. In Hawai'i we would call this ni'ele, or nosy... True. But in my defense, these are two completely different experiences and I am all about the complexity of the human experience. 
This first table is a man and a woman, maybe 50's, definitely a couple, that have been very curt with the waiter. One word answers, no eye contact (in fact, some eye-rolling), rude, and not satisfied with anything thus far.
The second table is another couple, possibly a bit older. They have been kind, attentive, gracious, and actually sweet, with the same waiter. 
The difference in energy coming from each table is obvious, not just to an empath like myself, but to others around me as well.
I see the looks from other patrons. 
Now, the first table could very well be going through something very challenging that would make them treat the waiter like they are.
But... so could the second couple. 

What does this have to do with anything? 

Kindness is ALWAYS appropriate. 

If we, as beings on this planet, have the opportunity to lighten someone's day by being kind, why wouldn't we? Elevating another person doesn't take anything away from us.
Rather, it actually elevates us as we do so! 

Of course, it is a choice. 

I very recently was 'crashing' after a morning of drinking some coffee with no food, taking my morning supplements, hopping a train with the Muse down to Encinitas, and then waiting (and waiting) for an Uber to take us to a restaurant. Our driver could not find us and I almost had a breakdown. (Yes you can laugh now...) Kaleo had to have me breathe with him... ha. Poor guy. I'm like a gremlin. Feed me, no water, ok water, don't feed me now, I will turn into a monster. Geez. 
Kaleo could feel my frustration, and when we finally got in the car, he was his usual amazingly friendly, KIND self to the driver. I was... silent. Hungry. Irritated. Come to find out, the driver wasn't from anywhere near the area so of course he had a hard time finding us. He was really nice.  And I felt bad, you guys. Like, really bad. I didn't choose kindness. 

Lesson learned. 

Kindness costs us nothing, but gives everything. 

With Loving kindness,
Melanie

 

 

 

I Promise Myself..

I wanted to share something that I read out loud to myself everyday... 
With love + gratitude,
Kaleo

I Promise Myself... by Christian D. Larson

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.

To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.

To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

"When the Power of Love is greater than the love of power, the world will know Peace." ~Jimi Hendrix

I saw this amazing photo on Instagram the other day, and after my initial elation it gave me mixed feelings. On the one hand, I felt a connection to whoever posted it in front of their home, and proud that people are taking a stance for human and civil rights. Yes!
But it also made me sad that in these modern times, this is still an issue, now more than ever. It made me reflect on how backwards things have gotten, and what we as a country are becoming. It makes me feel... separate. Different. Divided. From those who don't believe what I believe. From those who hurt others. From those who oppose my values. And I don't like to feel this division. I like to believe that we are all One, even in our polarity. I don't enjoy the feeling of wondering if a person is "on my side or the other side".
So I use my yoga. 

Yoga teachings ask us to use the practice of Upeksha, the fourth Brahmavihara: 

“Kindness for those who are happy, compassion for those who are less fortunate, honor for those who embody noble qualities, equanimity for those whose actions oppose your values.”
The Secret Power of Yoga by Nischala Devi (yoga sutras 1: 33)

This is not an easy concept, and I find myself struggling with it each day as I listen to NPR, or read something in the news that deepens the feeling of division. 

BUT

What I CAN do is love. I can practice equanimity instead of hatred or fear. By choosing Upeksha, I can bring myself into a place of love. In his commentary on Patanjali’s yoga sutras, Swami Satchidananda says, “Remember, our goal is to keep the serenity of our minds.” 
Then... We can all work together to raise the vibration of ourselves, our community, our country, our world. If we are focused on the negativity, we aren't doing the work that is necessary to shift into a higher consciousness. And in this powerful collective higher consciousness is where we can
be the change. 

Peace,
Melanie

 

"What you seek is seeking you." ~Rumi

Today in yoga class I brought up the concept of how our brains are wired to look for the negative. How we are actually designed to look for potential danger, so we can be ready for flight or flight. We can thank our prehistoric ancestors for this phenomenon, where this was absolutely necessary for our survival. But today, though at times it is certainly helpful, the "looking for the negative" doesn't always serve us so well. 

The good news is, studies show that we can reverse this habit and eventually re-wire our brain by consciously seeking out the positive. Within each moment we have a choice: make a judgment, which usually stems from fear or find the positive, which comes from love. 

When we look to the positive, we are opening ourselves up to live in love. When we judge ourselves and others, we are choosing fear. 

When we decide to be mindful of our thoughts and what we are creating, we invite an awareness into our daily lives. That awareness brings wisdom. I've had days where I felt like no matter what I did, nothing was going my way. I felt like one thing after another was coming at me. "What else could possibly go wrong today??" Oh just wait...

What you focus on grows.
What are you co-creating with the Universe?

When we are focused on what is wrong, guess what? The Universe thinks that is what we want more of, and voila! But the great news is, when we focus on what we DO want, and what we are grateful for, THAT is what we will receive more of.  Shifting our thoughts from judgement, negativity, and lack... to gratitude, positivity and love... will not only uplift our spirit and our mood, but will also attract more of the same. 

The next time you find yourself reacting out of fear, or making an unnecessary judgement. Pause and reflect on whether it is serving you and the greater good. If not, take a moment to shift your energy by 'finding the good'. Kindness to ourselves and others not only feels amazing, but it can help to re-wire our conditioned responses making it easier for us to live in a more consistent state of love. Sounds like a nice place to be. 
 

With Love,
M
 

 

 

 

 

 

Blog Angels in Love

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I find Angels in the Clouds of my mind.

They float by with a smile and a feeling of peace to remind me that all is well.
They give me words to listen to and I write them down with an improved mood.
Simple yet powerful words delivered by wings of those who know my truth and cheer for my improvement of learning Love on more levels day by day.

Fear will not improve anything in your life.

And if each day is a chance to improve your life,

then fear must be left out of that day

Therefore, it's easy to see what needs to be done

Release fear

and

Believe love

...........

Love your improvement

love The Ways to improve

love your opportunity to improve

Whatsoever it is you wish to improve on.

Feel your improvement as if it couldn't be stopped

Feel you are everything you want now

Focusing on your improvement while Fearing Nothing.

 

Use your inner guidance... Your instinct... Your desire of improvement.

Replace the you...You no longer want to see.

 

Forget your troubles in small amounts of time.

Then let those moments get longer.

Until there is no time passing that you are not in love with life.

Until there is no room for fear because your attention is in the improvement of you.

Love you

All of you

All you have Done

All you will do

 

-Kaleo